A Wife of Noble Character

For the past couple months, I’ve been studying Proverbs 31, and how to apply it to my life, to be a better (Christian/Biblical) wife and mom. I think many people view me as someone who has no goals. I didn’t finish college, and I currently have no plans to. I’m a stay at home mom, and there’s no place else I’d rather be!

I was recently discussing all of this with my husband, and told him my goals are his goals. It’s not that I can’t think for myself, but he is the head of our household, and it’s my job to support him, and be by his side, raising our children to the best of my ability. It’s his job to provide the income so we can have a roof over our heads, and food on the table, and he should leave for work each day, trusting that our kids will be fed, changed, washed, and cared for by me. Some of these things may be considered old fashion, but I consider myself to be pretty old fashioned! I am an absolute failure in the kitchen, but that’s something I’m GOING to improve! I am learning to sew more and more (baby blankets count!) and I’m going to home school our children. When we own a home, I’d also love to plant a small garden, and have a few chickens for fresh eggs.

This is obviously just a tiny part of being a Proverbs 31 Woman, I’m going to copy and paste the verses here (NIV version), and I’d really love feedback on what you’re doing to be a Wife of Noble Character? What struggles do you have? What have you learned? Advice, tips, comments?

10 [c] A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.

11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.

12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.

13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.

14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.

15 She gets up while it is still dark;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her servant girls.

16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.

17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.

18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.

19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.

20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.

21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.

22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.

23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.

24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.

25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.

26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.

27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.

28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:

29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”

30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.

31 Give her the reward she has earned,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.



  1. mamarissa said

    These are some good thoughts. I love this subject. 🙂

    A while back, my friend Katie gave some great advice regarding becoming a Proverbs 31 woman. You know how, in verse 15, there is mention of servant girls? Well, that seems to leave us at a disadvantage – we don’t have servant girls!….or do we? Consider the washer and dryer, consider the dishwasher – consider any item that assists you in your daily tasks. Each morning, use these items. Let it be the first thing you do. Throw clothes in the washer or dryer, fold the clean clothes, unload and load the dishwasher. If we get into the habit of starting our days that way, the work doesn’t ever seem to pile up. It’s simple advice, but I found it to be very helpful!

    Like you, I have also been venturing into the world of sewing. I believe that becoming a resourceful, creative woman is fulfilling this Proverbs 31 calling. Managing finances and spending money well are also a big part of this picture!

    The more we learn about creating (clothing, bedding [baby blankets!], making meals, gardening, decorating, etc), the better! We can bless our families, friends, and even the poor and needy with these things!

    I think it’s so great that you want to learn to cook well! There is a huge reward in crafting a delicious meal that nourishes your family.

    This passage doesn’t say this directly, but I have always felt that as a wife and mother, it is my responsibility to create a haven for my family. My home should be welcoming, comforting, easy to rest in, there should be healthy food available, warm beds to crawl into, an ear to listen and an embrace to be given. I want my home to be filled with God’s love by my generous hospitable attitude. I guess that’s my prayer as of late. I, too, long for these noble Proverbs 31 qualities – and how fortunate we are that God honors our desire to please him!

  2. theriddlefam said

    This is great, Camille!

    I’ve been thinking lately about how much focus there is on the wife bringing in money. I am proud to be a SAHM, and I feel that’s where I’m supposed to be, but it seems I should also be contributing to bringing in some money somehow from home.

    For now, I’m trying to find ways to SAVE money and make it stretch as far as possible. My dream is to grow all our own produce (I can’t WAIT to “consider a field and buy it!”) and have a nice flock of chickens. I think that will also help. Who knows? Maybe we’ll have a family stand at the local farmer’s market someday?

    So yeah, I’m trying to figure out ways I can use the gifts God has blessed me with to bring in some moolah right now.

  3. Corine said

    Keep up the good work.

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